Ask yourself: “What is the most loving thing I can do for myself today?”
Now, get quiet.
Wait past the first answer the mind wants to offer, which may be a reflex or something that’s habitual for you.
Listen. Tune in. Pay attention to your deep heart, your wise heart, and ask that part of you, your deep knowingness, “What is the most loving thing I can do for myself today?”
Or if that feels too big, “What is one loving thing I can do for myself today that would feel really good?”
If “I don’t know” is the answer that comes, just keep listening.
Perhaps it will come to you in a few minutes, perhaps in a few hours. Just hold the question open and see what arises as you move about your day.
You may be surprised. It may be very simple, or something you never would have thought of. Maybe it’s something that scares you a bit or is a leap for you in some way, but you know it’s right. Self-love isn’t the same as self-indulgence. It is kind and it is wise.
Another way to access this is “What am I needing now? and how can I give that to myself today?” Or simply, “How can I show myself some love right now?”
When you get an answer, be sure to do that thing. Make time for it. Give yourself that act of kindness.
It doesn’t have to be huge or time-consuming. It might be as simple as stroking your face lovingly or making a cup of tea or stepping outside to listen to the birdsong. Or it might be carving out an hour to write or paint or dance or sing or call a friend.
If you got something that’s impossible for you to do today, then you may have been listening to your mind, rather than your heart. The heart always is in the present moment, aware of your circumstances, aware of everything and able to move with what is. It’s not irresponsible, though it may seem irrational from the mind’s viewpoint. It may ask you to stretch in some way. For instance, if you are a workaholic, it may ask you to take a nap. But if you have a deadline, it knows about that.
So try it now. Ask yourself and listen quietly for the answer:
“What is the most loving thing I can do for myself today?”