In my last post, I shared with you the powerful tool of the Breakthrough Dream as a way of co-creating the life your heart desires. If you missed that post, click here to read it first. Today, we continue with part II.
In this post we explore how to discover your Breakthrough Dream, types of dreams, naming your dream clearly and committing to your dream.
How to choose a Breakthrough Dream
Your Breakthrough Dream might be a specific piece of a larger life dream that could be accomplished in a year or so. For instance, if my dream is to be a painter, I might choose to have a gallery show this year.
Or your dream may be something else that feels like it is needed in your life or is calling to you now, such as improving your health or repairing your relationship with your children.
The most important thing is that your Breakthrough Dream will inspire you, feel right, exciting or vital to you, and most likely scare you.
Any dream that is close to our hearts scares us because it matters to us deeply and it asks us to grow. If your Breakthrough Dream does not scare you at all, you may not have the right dream.
Your Breakthrough Dream should not feel heavy or burdensome like something you should do but do not want. Nor should it feel arbitrary, like you are just coming up with something. It should call to you, feel right to you, and feel like it would be wonderful to attain. If you sit with it for a week or two, it should feel clear that this is truly something you deeply desire that is calling to you at this time.
Some questions to help you
find your Breakthrough Dream
1) What one single change in some area of your life would represent a leap for you, a breakthrough to a new level of being and living? What would bring you more peace, joy, fulfillment or open up new vistas for you?
2) If you could
change one thing in your life that would make the biggest positive difference
right now, what would it be?
3) Is there one
thing you are really longing for in your life now that, when you think about
it, lights you up and probably scares you? Is there something you would love to
be, do or have that you are afraid to admit?
be most easily worked towards, the Breakthrough Dream would be a SMART goal. Your
Dream may not fit that criteria and that is fine too. Trust your heart on this.
A SMART goal is:
Specific—it’s clear what the Dream is and it’s
Measurable—an outside person could easily tell
whether or not you realized your dream
Attainable/Actionable—it’s humanly possible for you, even if
it’s a big stretch and you don’t know how. The A could also stand for
Actionable—it’s possible for you to take action toward it.
Relevant—It matters to you, it’s meaningful.
Time-based—You’ve put a time marker on when you’d
like to see the Dream accomplished, understanding that life may show up
Some examples of Breakthrough Dreams might be:
a draft of a book
a solo art show
on a 3-month trip to Bali
my own business
out of debt
a career I would love
Beingness dreams and Doingness dreams
Your dream might be a dream that involves doing, such as writing a book or starting a business or going to graduate school, or it might be more of a Beingness dream, such as deepening your connection to Spirit or discovering your true gifts.
Both kinds of
dreams are wonderful. It can be harder to find action steps toward a Beingness
dream and be clear about how you know if you have reached it, but these can
still be excellent Breakthrough Dreams. If you choose a Beingness dream, you
will simply need to define some consistent steps you can take toward it, ways
to keep it alive in your daily life and cultivate it, and some measures of
success or progress for yourself.
You don’t need to know the how
Many great dreams get stopped in their tracks because the dreamer said, “but I don’t know how.” If Martin Luther King, Jr. had said that, we would not have his amazing “I Have a Dream” speech, nor, more importantly, would we have all of the radical actions he took to fulfill that dream.
You do not need to know the how of your dream. You only need to know the what, what your dream is. The dream will show you the how as you declare it and begin to take steps toward it.
Please do not
limit yourself to dreams you feel you know you can have—safe, small dreams that
neither scare you nor light you up. Do not limit yourself to dreams you are
sure are within your power. Notice that Martin Luther King, Jr.’s dream relies
on many people coming together.
Dare to dream big, but dream from the heart and soul, not from your head, not from your hungry ego, not from what the culture-at-large claims success looks like.
Wording the Dream
Come up with a simple statement of the dream that is worded in the present tense, as if you are already living the dream, that includes you in the dream, and that uses emotionally evocative language.
Also, keep the dream focused on one thing. Do not try to cram several dreams into one dream. This sends confused messages to your subconscious and generally yields less potent results.
Here’s an example of one of mine: “I am holding my beautiful published book of poems in my hand. Fierce Aria has been lovingly shepherded into the world by a wonderful press.”
I chose this dream in 2018 as my Breakthrough Dream. My book was accepted by a press in May of 2019. Although I chose a new Breakthrough Dream for 2019 because I felt it was time to choose a Beingness dream, I continued to work on this dream as well. And I am still working on it, as now there is much to do to promote the book. In fact, I might choose bringing the book into the hands of readers as my Breakthrough Dream next year.
Committing to the Dream
Once you have chosen a dream, it is time to commit to it wholeheartedly. Declare your dream to yourself and the universe. Create a ritual of planting your dream seed.
Now the challenge is to keep it in your consciousness and stay in consistent action toward it throughout the year. As I have written elsewhere, it is not enough to get clear on the dream, name it clearly and commit to it, we have to also be in motion toward it. This is our offering to the Universe, which then responds in kind with support, synchronicities, guidance, necessary challenges and blessings. Read my post The Dangers of Wishful Thinking: Nothing Changes If We Don’t Take Action here.
This is where hiring a life coach can be enormously helpful. So that you have the structures, support, skills and accountability that any big dream needs to thrive.
If you are interested in learning more about how working with me as a Creative Life Coach can help you walk your unique heart path, realize your dreams and experience profound breakthroughs in your life, click here to schedule a complimentary Discovery Session with me, and we will explore together.