How to Find Inner Peace and Freedom

How to Find Inner Peace and Freedom

A Simple Somatic Practice to Uncover Your Innate Wisdom

One of the things I love about the work I do is I get to hold space for others and listen deeply to them. And in that space, I witness, again and again, the miracle of people finding their inner peace and freedom.

I get to see the innate wisdom we all carry in our hearts and bodies. People uncover beautiful answers to their questions and dilemmas.

I watch pain, difficult patterns, and stuck places, sometimes held for decades, dissolve. And I see the blossoming that follows in their lives, relationships, work, creativity.

It’s so simple, yet so astonishing every time. It takes my breath away.

The Surprising Path to Peace and Freedom

It might surprise you to hear that the key to your inner peace and freedom is in your suffering.

I love this. Because it means our suffering has gifts in it. Rich gifts of growth, healing, transformation, and yes, layers of deeper peace and freedom.

It means that the path through my suffering leads to a beautiful place if I know how to walk that path in a fertile way. And that the Universe is not out to get me, but rather is on my side, leading me to greater inner peace and freedom, if I am willing to accept the invitation.

Your suffering also tends to lead you to your calling, the unique brilliance and gifts you have to share, the way you find your most profound fulfillment and joy.

This doesn’t mean you should go out and court suffering. In any human life, we get plenty of it. And I don’t mean that you should wallow in suffering. That would be your key to inner hell.

Whatever suffering is arising in us is an invitation to let go of a place within where we are not yet free or not aligned with the truth of who we are and the truth of what is.

Saying this does not mean that others are given carte blanche to oppress, harm, or behave terribly toward us or anyone. It doesn’t make harmful behaviors acceptable in any way or excuse them. Nor does it mean you should beat yourself up for feeling suffering. It’s normal and a part of human life.

However, we can heal our suffering, rather than live with the pain and limitation of it.

Discovering the Miracle Cure

I want to share with you a simple, but powerfully effective tool I use with myself and my students to deal with inner pain. I call it The Miracle Cure because the results and the speed with which it works seem miraculous.

The Miracle Cure leads to our innate inner peace and freedom by welcoming and bringing loving awareness to our suffering, which is what our suffering wants. It wants to be seen, heard, felt all the way through, and then, released. Suffering is clamoring for attention, but loving, wise attention.

The greatest discovery of my life has been that everything dissolves in the presence of loving awareness, except the truth. And all we need is loving awareness for any suffering or lies we are carrying within to dissolve. Amazing, right? Test it out for yourself.

The Miracle Cure works by engaging the extraordinary wisdom of the body and letting go of your story about your suffering. The story about why you are suffering is what keeps you stuck. As long as you replay the story in your head, you will be stuck with the feelings and the unhelpful patterns. This is the first key to know about getting free inside.

I first learned a version of The Miracle Cure from a coach called Christian Mickelsen on a free webinar he led. I deepened my understanding of it through my study and practice of The Sedona Method. And I made it my own by practicing it over and over and blending my experience and study of somatic healing with it.

So, when I lead the process with a student, it may take different forms, as I let myself be led by my intuition, by what is arising and needed in the moment, and by the many modalities I have learned.

You can learn the simplest form right now and it will serve you beautifully. It’s a potent tool for helping yourself and others.

How to Practice the Miracle Cure

Think of an issue that has been troubling you in some way. Connect with that issue until you feel it. This usually doesn’t take long.

Now, look inside your body. Where do you feel those feelings most strongly in your body?

Focus on that part of the body and bring your attention to the very epicenter where the sensation is strongest.

Let go of all your thoughts about the issue and focus solely on the sensations. What do they feel like? Describe them.

Keep your awareness on the epicenter of the sensation. Breathe into it. Give it space. Let it know that you feel it, see it, hear it. Send it love and compassion.

Be patient. This pain is wanting to be acknowledged. Images and thoughts may arise. You can note these, but return to the sensations and keep breathing into them and bringing loving awareness to them.

Allow the sensations to be as they are and to shift and change as they do. They may get stronger, move to another part of the body, soften or dissolve, or change in some other way. Attend to them patiently without judgment and with compassion. Keep your focus on wherever the sensation is strongest and keep breathing into that point and sending it love.

Almost always, if you do this patiently without trying to make anything happen, the sensations will soften or dissolve. Usually, they will dissolve partially at first. Keep going, stay with what remains until it has completely dissolved, if possible.

Then, notice what remains. The space, peace, openness that remains. Welcome this with your awareness. Allow yourself to rest as that inner freedom, peace, or spaciousness which is your true nature. It may feel empty, quiet, calm, or neutral.

That’s it. You have done the Miracle Cure. You have released suffering.

After Finding Peace and Freedom

Notice there can sometimes be a tendency to go looking for the suffering and recreate it now that it’s gone, to feel uneasy without your familiar pain. Let yourself instead rest in the peace and freedom that you are.

If the Miracle Cure isn’t working for you in the moment, just let it go. Don’t stress. Don’t force it. Often, when we are dealing with a very painful issue, we need someone else to hold space for us and guide the process because it is hard to generate enough courage to bring awareness to our suffering without our defenses and distractions arising. And it can be hard for us to generate enough love and compassion for ourselves. Sometimes we need to talk about our suffering first, for it to be heard and for us to sort out things about it. Sometimes we need to take some action around it before it is ready to be released. Remember, suffering is a messenger and an invitation.

Or we may just need to return to the practice at another time. Or try another tool or practice.

Even if you just let go of a little bit of the suffering in one session, celebrate that. Often, if you begin the unraveling process within, it will continue on its own as you go about your day. And if there’s more to attend to, you can do so again another day.

To your inner peace and freedom,


How to Regain Your Balance in Challenging Times

How to Regain Your Balance in Challenging Times

I’ve been thinking about balance and imbalance. We just passed the equinox when the day and night are of almost equal length all over the planet. And we entered the sign of Libra, symbolized by the scales.

At the same time, the world is so topsy-turvy right now, so out of balance in many ways. War. The environment. Wealth distribution. What we value in the dominant cultures. To name just a few. There is much change, stress, loss, and uncertainty. It’s not easy on the body, mind, or heart.

So, I’m thinking about how to create and maintain balance in my life. And how to regain it when I get thrown for a loop. And how to help you do the same.

We all need practices that we are familiar enough with that we remember to use them when the going gets tough. It can make all the difference in the world to your health and well-being, your outlook, and your resilience.

Below I share three key tools that will help you have more balance, ease, and flow in your life. No matter what is happening. But first. . .

What’s Threatened My Balance This Year

I’ve had huge losses piled one on top of the other this year. I made the wrenching decision to leave my spiritual community of the past 22 years, a community through which I have had many of the most important and transformative experiences of my life.

Very shortly after that, my spiritual mentor and dear friend died, leaving me bereft of a deep source of guidance and healing I have relied on for 22 years as well.

And at the same time, we learned we had to leave the house we’d been renting for the past five years, a place we poured our heart and soul into, especially into the gardens. And we had to find a new place in a terrible rental market.

We were blessed to find a lovely home, but it’s been a big jump in rent, which is not easy amidst the insane inflation of everything.

And then my friend Curt died.

Suffice it to say, I’ve had my share of challenges this year. And I imagine you’ve had yours.

How I Maintain and Regain Balance

Most of the time, I’ve done astonishingly well. Sometimes, I feel just awful, completely down in the dumps, triggered, or stressed beyond belief.

So, how do I maintain my balance in tough times? And how do I regain it when I get knocked off? I’ll share three powerful practices with you.

As you read these, please remember that balance is not a static, idealized state of perfection. It is a dynamic movement, swaying between poles, dipping first one way and then another. We make myriad little adjustments in order to stand upright. The goal is not to never lose our balance. We learn instead to cultivate a fluid, ever-shifting dance and to regain our balance when we lose it.

1. Breathing

The number one tool to rely on for creating and regaining balance is breathing. Deep slow breaths.

This can be as simple as taking three big deep cleansing breaths and letting them out with a big ahhh or sigh. Breathing in light and space and ease on the in-breath. And then letting go completely on the out-breath. Try it now.

When you take a deep breath, the vagus nerve stimulates your body’s relaxation response. Blood pressure lowers and so does your heart rate and your brain calms.

Here are a couple of breathing techniques that can be helpful.

Gradually increase the length of your breath until you are breathing in for a count of six or seven, and out for the same amount.

Or try the “box breath,” also called “rhythmic breathing,” which is breathing in for four counts, holding the breath in for four, breathing out for four counts, and holding the breath out for four. Repeat either of these for several minutes.

You can also do “circle breath,” where you breathe in and out in long, slow, deep, and steady breaths with no breaks, hitches, or catches. I like to visualize the in-breath coming up the back of my spine and over the top of my head, and then on the out-breath, flowing down the front of my body.

2. Earthing and Being in Nature

By now most of you have probably heard about the positive effects of what the Japanese call “forest bathing.” Any kind of time spent outdoors in nature (it doesn’t have to be a forest) can help restore our sense of balance, peace, well-being, and wonder. It lowers our stress levels, can ease depression and promotes health. (A few studies are listed here:

I start my day by being outside in my garden for 20- 30 minutes. I also do some gentle movements with my bare feet on the earth. This is called Earthing, and it also works on concrete, bricks, or stone, but not asphalt.

Earthing releases the excess buildup of free radicals in the body, reducing inflammation in the body and increasing your energy levels. It is also said to improve blood flow and sleep and even slow down the aging process. You can read more benefits of earthing here:

During my work day, I will take 5-minute breaks to walk outside and reset myself.

3. Spiritual Practice and Connection

Whatever your beliefs or traditions are, cultivating spiritual connection and regular spiritual practices are unbelievably helpful in challenging times. My daily prayer and meditation practice is the anchor of my day. I also sit by the fire outside on or near the new moon and full moon, the solstices and equinoxes, and have other practices to foster connection.

Find the practices that resonate with you and work for you. Whether chanting or prayer or meditation or some other form of regular practice. The key is to make it a habit. That’s when you reap the biggest benefits.

I hope these three core tools help you find more balance through these topsy-turvy times. I’d love to hear from you about what else helps you create and maintain balance in your life.

To your fluid balance,


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